Don’t be this guy/girl
As the mood strikes me, I’ll wax poetic on some of the characters one could encounter during their dating adventures. I’ll start off with one I witnessed last night.
Don’t be this guy: The Dance Floor Hoverer
I was at a friend’s birthday party. The guests: a mixed group of guys and girls in their 20’s, mostly single. The venue: A swanky bar that tries to be selective and pretentious at the door, but they aren’t fooling anyone. This was followed by dancing at a nearby club. We had all gotten to know each other well enough during the first half of the evening, so when it came time for the dancing, it was not unusual for the guys to dance with the girls without being lame and asking for permission. (Permission? What is this, a middle school dance?)
The Hoverer was part of our group, but rather than be awesome and fun, and just introduce himself to the girls to make it less awkward, he sort of danced, on his own, like two feet away from us. For about an hour.
I was in a group of dancing girls, and it would not have been weird for him to strike up a conversation (be all had the birthday girl in common, after all) and pluck a girl away for a dance. Any one of us wouldn’t have minded. But we did mind that the creepy silent lonely dancer was always there, watching. Several times I even looked directly at him, and he looked back at me, but he didn’t approach me or introduce himself. He just kept hovering, two feet away, not talking to anyone.
Being a wallflower long enough for girls to notice you and start pointing you out to their friends is bad. Don’t be a pansy and flit around like a bug waiting for our permission to talk to us. Be a man.
Great post!