In one day, I came upon two different blog postings about the same thing: Women who develop a sense of entitlement when it comes to what kind of man they want and think they deserve.
- Here’s the first, by Moxie (interesting blog if you’ve never read it) — memorable quote: “We assume that we bring XYZ to the table and therefore deserve XYZ+ in return.”
- And the second, from Why There Are No Girls in San Francisco: “For reasons that do not require much analysis the more educated and moneyed a girl gets – the more access or at least exposure she has to life’s myriad and multitudinous possibilities – the more likely she is to want Everything, in all its forms, together at once, and the more she demands that the world bend to her will.”
We tend to describe ourselves in list form. We’re smart, funny, pretty, kind, hard-working (if you’ve ever read cliche online dating profiles, you see a lot of this). We want a man who conforms to a list as well: educated, tall, good-looking, funny, charming, sensitive, etc. We want, we want, we want. But realistically, what’s out there? I’m not saying what’s out there is crap, far from it. But how many people can really fulfill every qualification you have? And take a good look at yourself: Can you really fulfill a long must-have list, too? Check out the above links. Food for thought.
I talked to a coach on Friday who left me as homework, to list 100 qualities in the man I seek. Sure, I can list them (I think). But that doesn’t mean I will blindly look for someone who matches all of them! I recognize my dating pool limitations and how overtly unpopular I am with the guys.
But I have heard of women who listed qualities of the man they were seeking and he appeared. So, I don’t knock that.
I knock following blindly a subjective list.
I’d rather go in with the attitude: I don;t expect anything but I will respect myself.
Than, I expect him to be insert awesome traits and look like Jon Hamm.